Q. Should you end a relationship because you love someone too much?
A relationship only lasts if the love for one another is equal. If one person in a relationship has feelings so over the top for another there will be pain rather than happiness.
The person that is too much in love gets into the area of being obsessed with the other person. That leads to doubts and insecurities. The other person in the relationship senses that and feels trapped and confined, and then starts pulling away. As you can see, the two people in the relationship start going in the opposite directions and in most cases the relationship will end.
The obsessed lover will be crushed from the rejection because their feelings are at such a high level that the emotional letdown will be devastating. Some people, when they feel their obsession for another, say to that person " I love you too much....we should end this."
In reality, the obsessed lover can sense that the feelings between the two are not equal, but they say that statement to be reassured that their partner feels the same. That is the insecurity.
As humans, love is the most complex emotion we have. We don't know why we fall in love and why we fall out of love.
We all have had the experience of being totally in love with someone, so much love that we think about them every minute of every day, when we are near them we have to touch them, that we want to do every special thing we can think of for them, and we want to physically love them and give them ultimate happiness and not care about ourselves........but something goes wrong and we fall out of love and we seldom ever think of that person. That is the complexity of love that has no explanation.
Enjoy love when it comes because most times it comes when you least expect it. Enjoy it when the love is equal and there are no insecurities or doubts in the relationship. Enjoy the trust, the daily happiness, the physical elation, but understand that to keep the love at that level there must be communication and compromise.
Love is the most wonderful emotion we have. Real love doesn't come that often in life, but when it does, cherish every moment.
LIVE.
LOVE.
LAUGH.
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